And I suspect the "one woman's view" is echoed a few hundred million times out there. I know I heard it last night in spades from 2 feet away.
I'm a libertarian, but infidelity is something I just never heard a convincing excusing rationale for.
If a person in a "committed" or even "ostensibly committed" relationship, stand up and have the cajones to say you have decided to "de-commit" and then go out and do your strange.
Mrs. Spitzer was considered a fool's fool at those press conferences by more women than not that I spoke to.
By the way, Jazz, thanks for teeing up something other the world record for the number of rhinoplasties on one nose today.
DLS
· 5 months ago
She ought to run for governor against him. HEH, HEH
DLS
· 5 months ago
"Mrs. Spitzer was considered a fool's fool at those press conferences by more women than not that I spoke to."
Not just women felt that way. Why did she do it, anyway? Were they trying to keep their political options open, maybe to find a home in the Obama administration? Ha.
StockBoySF
· 5 months ago
I love that letter, thanks Jazz!
Ultimately the reaction in such a situation is left up to the woman. She has every right to leave if he violated her trust and their sacred vows. But I also respect the woman who does "stand by her man" when he has made a mistake and if she believes his apology is sincere. The Spitzers, for example, are in couples therapy. I don't know how that's going to work out and they may split. I only mention them as an example of a governor in a similar situation whose wife is taking a different route.
Personally I tend to be the more forgiving type. However once someone crosses a line with me (and I make it clear when a line is about to be crossed or potentially could be crossed) then that's it.
From a religious aspect (and I think know your views, but I want to point this out).... I figure if God is willing to forgive us (provided we are sincere in our apology) then I think we should also forgive others. I know I'm not perfect. Tthere is this little thing called "being human" which makes life so interesting because we're given the freedom to choose our actions.
I don't strive to live a perfect life, because such a life doesn't exist. Instead I try to be "more perfect" each day, hoping that I learned from the previous day's lessons. But I'm not even perfect at that either.
So as long as I feel an apology is sincere, then I'm willing to forgive. And when true love is involved it's even more complicated.
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I'm a libertarian, but infidelity is something I just never heard a convincing excusing rationale for.
If a person in a "committed" or even "ostensibly committed" relationship, stand up and have the cajones to say you have decided to "de-commit" and then go out and do your strange.
Mrs. Spitzer was considered a fool's fool at those press conferences by more women than not that I spoke to.
By the way, Jazz, thanks for teeing up something other the world record for the number of rhinoplasties on one nose today.
Not just women felt that way. Why did she do it, anyway? Were they trying to keep their political options open, maybe to find a home in the Obama administration? Ha.
Ultimately the reaction in such a situation is left up to the woman. She has every right to leave if he violated her trust and their sacred vows. But I also respect the woman who does "stand by her man" when he has made a mistake and if she believes his apology is sincere. The Spitzers, for example, are in couples therapy. I don't know how that's going to work out and they may split. I only mention them as an example of a governor in a similar situation whose wife is taking a different route.
Personally I tend to be the more forgiving type. However once someone crosses a line with me (and I make it clear when a line is about to be crossed or potentially could be crossed) then that's it.
From a religious aspect (and I think know your views, but I want to point this out).... I figure if God is willing to forgive us (provided we are sincere in our apology) then I think we should also forgive others. I know I'm not perfect. Tthere is this little thing called "being human" which makes life so interesting because we're given the freedom to choose our actions.
I don't strive to live a perfect life, because such a life doesn't exist. Instead I try to be "more perfect" each day, hoping that I learned from the previous day's lessons. But I'm not even perfect at that either.
So as long as I feel an apology is sincere, then I'm willing to forgive. And when true love is involved it's even more complicated.